Love isn’t ‘powering through the challenges’ while holding out hope that eventually the autistic person will change. Your friendship, kindness, and caring doesn’t yield a ‘reward’ of a non-autistic person in the end.
Monthly Archive: May 2020
Autistic People Don’t “Get Used to” Sensory Triggers We Are Forced to Endure, We Disassociate From Them
Does “training” an autistic person to endure sensory triggers make them easier to endure? No. It forces the autistic person to do the only thing they can to survive: Disassociate their entire lives.
“Why can’t you just…?” When you say this to an autistic person, it’s the same as asking a blind person why they can’t see. We are wired differently, and we always will be.
Does your autistic loved one appear to be more comfortable doing housework when they are alone? Here’s why.
Does the autistic person in your life behave in ways you believe are socially awkward and uncomfortable? Tell us using this formula.
If you mimic an autistic person’s behavior toward you, we won’t understand you’re trying to hint at something, we’ll just become fearful and distrustful. Here’s what to do instead.
Want to show an autistic person a shortcut to something they’re doing? Ask first! Most of us can get very confused and mixed up when trying to learn “your way” of doing things.
“Stop Yelling at Me!” – Why You May Hear This From Your Autistic Loved One When You Haven’t Raised Your Voice
“Stop yelling at me!” You don’t have to raise your voice even slightly to yell at an autistic person, here’s why. (Hint: It’s not sound sensitivity.)
“Teasing”, a bonding experience for neurotypicals that can be confusing and traumatizing for their autistic counterparts.